Hello and
welcome to my first blog!
I wanted
to tell you all about my own experience of Daisy, mainly because it was amazing
but also because if I'm going to promote myself as a Daisy Birthing Teacher I feel
I should share how Daisy Birthing really helped me.
I was
talking recently to an expectant relative about my birth and why she should
give Daisy a try. What I didn't realize was that inadvertently I was promoting
Daisy as a way to achieve a home birth. As a first time mum she said I'm not
that keen on birthing at home, which made me stop in my tracks and rethink how
I do promote Daisy?
Daisy did
help me achieve the home birth that I'd waited years for but it also gave me so
much more at a time when I really needed support...
My first
son was born in 2004. I really wanted an active, natural birth so I did a lot
of research and a lot of reading in preparation. My labour lasted 24 hours from
the first twinge to delivery and for me was not the positive experience I'd
hoped for. I swore then that if I ever had any more children I would have a
home birth. What I realised was I'd had the will and belief in my body but I
didn't have the skills I needed to birth the way I wanted and nobody there to
guide me back then.
Prior to
finding out I was pregnant in 2015, Daisy had popped up on my Facebook a few
times and it really struck a chord with me so when I got that positive line I
knew this time I'd be doing things differently.
Due to
personal circumstances I started Daisy classes at 28 weeks and attended two
terms. During this time I was experiencing an awful lot of stress in my
personal life and increasingly
aware of how the stress would be affecting my unborn baby. All I wanted to do
was enjoy my pregnancy and look forward to becoming a Mum again. So how did
Daisy help me?
Well the
first term of Daisy really helped me resolve what had happened to me 11 years
ago. I had been carrying a lot of grief around about the experience. Daisy
helped me understand what had happened to me physically and why and how a lot
of the intervention I experienced and the direction I was given was
unnecessary. I wasn't counselled about this as that's not what Daisy is about
but the new knowledge that I gained helped me to see what could have been
different. Simple things helped, like understanding how cervical dilation can
go backwards as well as forwards and why some birthing positions are more
helpful than others. Daisy taught me the skills I needed to birth this time and
it also filled in the blanks in my knowledge about how to be active, breath
correctly and stay relaxed and calm.
Every
session I practised my birthing breathing techniques and movements and I looked
forward to the guided meditation at the end of the session, even though it was
really hard to take my mind off what was happening in my personal life. By
term two my personal stress had become less and I was generally able to relax a
whole lot more. My second term really allowed me to learn to relax and it
cemented all the skills I'd learned in the first term.
What I
would say to any new Daisy mums is complete as many terms as you can as the
more you do the more embedded the skills you learn become so that on the big
day you just know what to do to stay calm, you know how to breath and you can
visualise exactly what your body is doing.
Daisy
also offered a couples course which me and my partner attended; something I
would recommend to all birth partners! My partner was really on board with my
ideas for a natural birth and I'm really glad we attended together because we
realised that his experience of childbirth with his ex wife were also very
medicalised and Daisy helped him also to understand his previous experiences
and how this birth would be completely different.
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