Friday, 2 September 2016

How My Mum Rocked Birth... 1977 Style

So today is my 39th birthday, I know shock horror! :-) and all though most years my Mum will say 'This time xx years ago I was...' I've never really asked her how my birth actually went, which is even more important to me now that I'm a birth teacher and I'm reading, talking and writing about other women's births everyday. I was also really interested to find out what her experience of the induction process was because in the 70's there were lots of questions being asked about inductions.

In 1974-75 the TV show Horizon made a programme called 'A Time to be Born' questioning should so many mothers be induced. This can still be viewed at http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p01z4pcy. It's well worth a watch! Inductions were being hailed by some as the future of birth, it was sold as quick and efficient for both mums and hospitals but doubts were being raised over the long term consequences of inductions, the same induction processes used today! So what was going down on September 2nd 1977.

I was 19 in 1977, Joanne was my first birth and I was 12 days overdue. In fact I'd been booked in for induction on the 2nd September but birthed in the early hours at 1.50 am. Induction wasn't discussed as a choice in those days and by 12 days over due I'd had enough anyway and felt like it was there to help even though I had no idea of the process. Midwives didn't perform sweeps in those days.


So the Monday before the 2nd I saw my Midwife who carried out an examination and confirmed that I was in early labour and every day following I had a show. 


Thursday 1st September at around 10 pm my waters broke and my contractions started pretty much straight away. My Dad drove me to hospital where on arrival I was checked and found to be around 2 cm dilated. I was given a shave, a bath and an enema, all routine procedures at the time. I was told I wouldn't give birth until at least 8 am and with that at about 11.30 pm I was taken to a ward and left with immense pain and feeling very distressed. 


At 12 am I started vomiting which set my then husband off doing the same in the corner of the room. I was lying on my side, I shouted for the nurse and asked for something to help with the pain. I was offered pethidine but told it was too early to have this as I was not in established labour and it would slow my contractions down. I was basically told that if I wanted my baby by 8 am then to stop being a baby and get on with it! So I lay there biting my pillow and I honestly thought I was going to die.


It was now about 12.45 am and this carried on until about 1.20 am when I rang the buzzer. The nurse came in and I told her I really needed the toilet, my husband was sent out and the Midwife had a look. I was told to take some deep breaths, the break was whipped off and I was rushed down to the labour suit. I was offered gas and air but by this point I didn't need it anymore. I thought I've come this far without it! It was now 1.45 am, it was too late my babies head had already started appearing. I was told to push if I felt like it and as soon as my body pushed the pain went and I thought 'this is quite productive.' Five minutes later Joanne was born. Once I realised I was doing this myself as no one wanted to help me, I thought 'well' and just got on with it.


The midwives congratulated me and said, 'for such a young lady you were a credit, a star pupil and the easiest patient on delivery that night.'


So there you go, I was born and it did bring a tear to my eye as my Mum described my birth. I'm so used to hearing other mums birth stories that to hear my own was awesome! My cord was cut, I was weighed and checked coming in at 6 lb 15 oz. I was brought back to my mum to feed as she delivered her placenta naturally and I slept easily for 12 hours! Still do :-)


I was a perfectly normal delivery. My mum birthed on her left side with a midwife supporting her leg. I said that seemed quite progressive for the time but she said it was that fast it was basically the position she landed in. Was this normal of her peers? no not really. Most of her friends had bad experiences and birth traumatised them; friends having forceps, c-sec's and one friend receiving 33 stitches! 


She was kept in hospital with me for 12 days! she thought this was unnecessary and this started to affect her mood but the wards needed the beds filling up so they didn't look empty. Unfortunately even with all that time in there she wasn't supported with breastfeeding even though it was insisted upon. Once home she couldn't handle engorgement and stopped after two weeks. Going on to feed my brothers and sisters she realised it was the lack of support and education that failed her.  


She went in expecting the worst as she knew nothing about the birthing process, she expected a tiny little baby, the size of a toy doll and was really shocked at how big I was even though I was pretty small. She was naive to the process. 


My sister born in 1979 was 14 days over due. Again no sweep and this time an actual induction. Her waters were broken at 10.30 am and my Mum was put on an oxytocin drip. I asked her if this made labour worse but for her my birth had been so intense so quick she found induction felt the same. My sister was born without assistance at 1.50 pm. 


My mum went on to have another 3 children, the third very traumatic leading to the near death of her (bum first baby), the fourth was quick and natural and the fifth induced, which she described as a slow labour where she wasn't progressing but yet pushing, My brother was born with a very bruised head. 


My Mum concluded that with every birth she knew and understood her own body, even the birth that turned in to an emergency. She didn't like interference with her body from Midwives and other professionals and said so, but she has always been one strong willed mamma :-)


My birth surprised me a little as it was more normal than I was expecting but what I think is interesting is that nearly 40 years on, yes I said it I'm nearly 40! that we still have mums being told that they've got hours to go and then delivering. But what I find even more surprising is that the induction process has barely changed at all. My Mum was none the wiser to the process and she wasn't aware that at the time inductions were being hailed as the future of birth. Perhaps she swerved a curve ball by naturally going in to labour with me and I feel happy about that knowing that no drugs entered my system before I'd even entered the world. 


So even though she was a scared teenager, not having a clue what to expect, that's how my mum rocked birth in 1977 :-)  






                      

  

Tuesday, 16 August 2016

Birth Announcement from a Daisy Mum - Michelle

William Heywood Evans and Emily Ann have arrived!!! Basically 12.30 yesterday night (11th Aug) woke up went to loo with pains . 1.00am waters broke. Contractions went direct to 2 minutes apart. Called hospital said come straight in. Parked. Managed to get to room immediately on all fours vomiting. Examined at 2 ish had birthed a foot so emergency csection cat 1. Contractions with no gaps and babies whipped out about 3.15. They were in special unit on air with teeny bit of oxygen but that is no longer needed and they have started to regulate their own temperature so hot cots have been turned down. had lovely cuddles yesterday and going down there is a bit. Emily came out first weighing 4lb 12oz 2 mins later William 5lb 1oz xxxx Thank you for the part you played on our journey...we are eternally grateful to every Angel that has show such care and support to us xxx 


All just was so so fast. Zero to top speed immediately. Feeling teary with a strange sense of joy relief and a steadfast promise to give my world over to loving our little son and daughter. Just those words make my heart ache in a way I cannot explain. They are here.. they are mine and I can not believe I did it. My dreams have come true xxxx




Birth Announcement from a Daisy Mum - Eloise

This is Lauralie Christine. She was born 4.33am on the 23rd weighed 7lbs14oz! I need to say I would not of been able to do it myself or had such a positive birth regardless of the obstacles we had if it wasn't for the amazing daisy anchors and relaxation and understanding I learned thank you so much Joanne Fellowes!! Beause I had planned a water birth in a midwife led unit however I ended up with being moved to a hospital room with monitoring strapped to my tummy to monitor her heart due to there being concerns she was going to be smaller than expected down to my tummy measurements.. So when she did arrive at her weight a surprise to everyone after a long labour and over two hours of pushing!! I did it with the amazing support of my mum my auntie my partner and the most amazing midwife who help us all to hold the space and belived in me being able to do it! and she held off the interferance of doctors who were getting twitchy with the amount of time it was taking. I was able to stay strong focused possitive and belive in myself and achieve my possitive birth and I simply just needed to allow my body all the extra time to open soften and relax in order to birth my beautiful big girl for my dainty frame x






Birth Announcement from a Daisy Mum - Katie

Would like to say a amazing thank u to Jo for teaching all the basic info and the key things I needed for the birth of my daughter Tillie Rae Haines , Tillie was born 3.35 am on 17/6/16 weighing 6lbs 3oz, I used all the breathing techniques I was taught through classes, even though I ended up having to have an epidural which was not planned, I still felt that thanks to daisy classes I stayed in control and positive throughout my daughters birth xxxx




Birth Announcement from a Daisy Mum - Sarah

Morning hun. Eleanor Jane Tricker was born at 1.33am Sunday morning weighing 9lbs. She is just beautiful not the planned labour as went on for 3 days! Ended up in forceps delivery with epidural however daisy techniques got me throughout the pain of an intense latent labour and all the early phases. In total 13 hour labour epidural needed for 9 of them. With pre labour 61 hours xx




Birth Announcement from a Daisy Mum - Ann

Hi Jo, c section in the end, Tuesday morning as booked. She just too happy in there. Cried so much coming out, but she breast feeds really well, and I'm getting to grips with re learning a new baby, I totally forgot about burping! And the poo! But really she is amazing,  totally in love. I saw her coming out, so thanks for the last message re the c section website. That was wonderful wonderful!





Birth Announcement from a Daisy Mum - Lucy...

Finally our time for a birth announcement! This is Ralph and he was born on the 21st of May at 23:44. He weighed 7lb 15oz. He was born in the pool an hour after getting to the hospital. I used my daisy centred breath all the way to the hospital which kept me calm. My husband counted for me so I didn't rush each breath. It was all a bit quick once we arrived but I had an amazing birthing room at St Michael's & had my daisy birthing music on which really helped me to stay focused and although Jo will confirm I wasn't that keen on the "out" breath it was the one that I found the most valuable. We were home within 6 hours & my little girl woke up to having a new brother.